Understanding and Overcoming Discomfort: Why Do Compliments Make Us Uncomfortable?
A lot of us squirm when someone pays us a compliment. How do we go about Understanding and Overcoming Discomfort with compliments? There was a time, when compliments used to make me really uncomfortable . To be fair, sometimes they still do! But the frequency and intensity are almost negligible. Earlier, whenever someone would compliment me on anything, I would just mumble something and just try to wriggle out. The inner dialogue would be like – “What? I am looking handsome? Get your eyes checked!” or “Why is he/ she buttering me up? There must be something that person wants!”
So when I started working on the self, I started understanding why it was so. It was the inner dialogue again – the one which was silent and held me in contempt! He thought that I was not even average looking and that I was not worthy of compliments. And hence the reaction to the outside complements!
You see, most of the time, we are being run by a part of us that we are not consciously aware of. How many times it happens that after an emotional outburst, we are puzzled as to what was the need or where did that come from? One moment you decide that “I won’t be angry” but the next moment you get triggered by something trivial and out comes the anger.
There is a part of us that is hidden from our conscious but runs our lives. It always has and as we grow up, it also does. If you have read till here, then I am sure you have a question that what changed? Let me try to tell you the sequence in a nutshell.
The Way Out
So, this is how I went about Understanding and Overcoming Discomfort with Compliments.
- I concluded that status quo was not an option.
- I mustered up courage to address it.
- I started on my quest of healing and selflove.
Although the process is still on (and will go on for quite sometime), I became empathetic to my younger self and others like him. Having gone through it myself, and found a way out, maybe it can be a way to pay it forward. That, is the main reason for my taking early retirement and becoming a healer and spiritual life coach.
Find yourself resonating with any part of my journey? Ready to embark on your own path of self discovery and healing? Reach out today and let’s journey together.
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