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Healing Childhood Trauma: Should We Question Our Upbringing?
In most cultures, but especially in the Indian Subcontinent, Parents are given a status next to God. They have brought us into this world, and given us everything that we have. But, is it sacrilege to question them? Not directly but Should we question our upbringing? That is where Healing Childhood Trauma begins!
Whenever I ask a client about their relationship with their parents or about childhood, unless the client has started questioning self, he/ she replies “It was good” or at max, “it was okay”. The energies (or body language if you will) however, give a more honest answer.
In psychology (and healing), it is understood that almost all our behavioural issues, complexes and sometimes even physical health conditions stem from our childhood. Be it self-blame, detachment, people-pleasing, lack of trust, codependency or any other behavioural pattern, all stem from our childhood. But mention the term childhoodtrauma and most people close up tighter than a clam!
What Happens When We Question Our Upbringing?
It may seem that by questioning our upbringing we are questioning our whole existence or at best, the belief that the patterns of life are due to ‘that’ person (A teacher, A friend or an Ex etc.). But no one is asking you to blame anyone; all you are doing is analyzing what really happened and what story the child you created. When you are able to differentiate between these two, you start healing.
And the funny thing is that, once you start on this path, all your relationships – with spouse, children, parents, siblings, In-laws and professional, all start improving!
It’s all about understanding yourself better and creating healthier patterns for the future. So, be honest to yourself and question it. It wouldn’t diminish the love and respect you have for your parents. Rather, it would deepen and sweeten it further.
So, let’s break the silence and start the conversation. Our relationships with our parents and our upbringing shape so much of who we are today. It’s not about blame or guilt; it’s about understanding and healing.
If you’re curious to explore this further or want to talk about your own experiences, I’m here to listen. Let’s talk freely, without any judgement and start the journey towards deeper understanding and growth together.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]
