Change vs. Transformation: Remember all those times you vowed to change, only to end up right back where you started? You’re not alone!
You have changed Abhinav! An old friend whom I was meeting after a long time said to me recently. And I just shrugged my shoulders as if saying “I don’t know anything about that”. There was a time when I was willing to do anything to hear these words. How many times did I promise to someone that I would change but I would still end up doing the same things. Then I understood difference between Change vs. Transformation.
In any relationship, there are some expectations from both sides. Be it as personal as a romantic relationship or just a professional one, we all have expectations. And when the person in front of us is important to us, we would say or promise anything to maintain that relationship.
Statements like “I will not do it again“, “I won’t forget it next time” or “I will change” etc are given to try to maintain status quo but how many times do we actually honour them?
Why do we fail at them? Because we are trying to ‘change’ and not ‘transform’. Change vs. Transformation: there is a difference between the two:
Change
involves a shift in a specific element or aspect, process, or behavior. It’s usually tactical and short-term, Limited in scope, affecting specific aspects or areas. Often superficial or surface-level, it is usually short-term and temporary to improve or modify existing conditions and is often reversible.
Transformation
signifies a complete overhaul that fundamentally changes the essence of something. It is broad and comprehensive, impacting the entire system or individual at a foundational level. Deep and systemic, long-term and enduring, it completely redefines and reinvents the existing conditions and is generally irreversible.
A word of advice though – transformation may totally alienate you from the person for whom you were wanting to ‘change’ but when you look back, you always get a better deal!
So, stop saying that you will change because that is working from the space of fear; Transform because you love yourself!
