Ever Found Yourself Pointing Fingers Or Blaming Others When Things Go Wrong? Here Is Why We Do It And How To Break Free
Whenever something didn’t go according to my liking, I used to find myself blaming others, it could be someone or something. After all, I was the embodiment of perfection! We all tend to place the blame on someone else, but why do we do it? What do we gain by putting the blame somewhere? Here is what I have learned:
- Conditioned To Blame: From childhood, we get conditioned to blame. Even today, when a child gets hurt, we say - bad table/bad tree, etc. We don't ask the child to be careful, though!
- Avoiding Responsibility: Blaming gives us a way of explaining the wrong that happened without taking responsibility. Even if we don't blame someone, we blame circumstances by saying - why does this always happen to me?
- Justifying The Hurt: Our brain tries to analyze why we are hurting. Once we've done that, it wants to justify the event, and the easiest way is to blame someone.
- Missed the promotion - The boss doesn't like me
- Didn't get a job? - The government is not doing anything for us!
- Broke up a relationship? - The ex was not right for me.
- Met with an accident? It was the fault of the other party.
- Marriage not working? - It is parents'/ in-laws' fault
How many of these have happened to you? Have you been blaming others or yourself? What do you think you’re gaining from it?
Steps To Overcome Blaming Others
- Practice self-awareness and mindfulness.
- Take responsibility for your actions and decisions.
- Understand the root cause of your behavior.
- Develop empathy and try to see situations from others’ perspectives.
- Focus on problem-solving rather than blaming.
Have you found yourself blaming others? Share your experiences in the comments below and letâs discuss how we can all take steps towards personal accountability and growth.